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CHILD CUSTODY the Taylor v Taylor - Factors
Maryland
Courts follow the factors outlined in this case to
determine joint legal and shared physical custody
Capacity of the Parents to Communicate and to Reach
Shared Decisions Affecting the Child's Welfare.
This is clearly the most important factor in the
determination of whether an award of joint legal custody
is appropriate, and is relevant as well to a
consideration of shared physical custody. Rarely, if
ever, should joint legal custody be awarded in the
absence of a record of mature conduct on the part of the
parents evidencing an ability to effectively communicate
with each other concerning the best interest of the
child, and then only when it is possible to make a
finding of a strong potential for such conduct in the
future.
With few exceptions, courts
and commentators agree that joint custody is a viable
option only for parents who are able and willing to
cooperate with one another in making decisions for their
child.
When
the evidence discloses severely embittered parents and a
relationship marked by dispute, acrimony, and a failure
of rational communication, there is nothing to be gained
and much to be lost by conditioning the making of
decisions affecting the child's welfare upon the mutual
agreement of the parties. Even in the absence of
bitterness or inability to communicate, if the evidence
discloses the parents do not share parenting values, and
each insists on adhering to irreconcilable theories of
child-rearing, joint legal custody is not appropriate.
The parents need not agree on every aspect of parenting,
but their views should not be so widely divergent or so
inflexibly maintained as to forecast the probability of
continuing disagreement on important matters.
The Courts will examine the
sense of respect for one another as parents, despite the
disappointment in each other as marriage partners. The
fact that each can appreciated the value of the other to
the child, and is sensitive to the possible loss of a
parent-child relationship. There must be a demonstrated
capacity to tolerate the minor differences that existed
and to distinguish the important from the unimportant
ones. The parents should be able to relinquish control
and not interfere in the other parent's relationship
with the child. They should each be personally flexible
and able to accommodate to the needs of the arrangement,
the child, and even to the other parent. It was
important that each parent had a sense of self-esteem as
a parent in his or her own right in order to maintain
the balance in the co-parental relationship.
Ordinarily the best evidence of compatibility with this
criterion will be the past conduct or
“track record” of the parties. We
recognize, however, that the tensions of separation and
litigation will sometimes produce bitterness and lack of
ability to cooperate or agree. The trial judge will have
to evaluate whether this is a temporary condition, very
likely to abate upon resolution of the issues, or
whether it is more permanent in nature. Only where the
evidence is strong in support of a finding of the
existence of a significant potential for compliance with
this criterion should joint legal custody be granted.
Blind hope that a joint custody agreement will succeed,
or that forcing the responsibility of joint
decision-making upon the warring parents will bring
peace, is not acceptable. In the unusual case where the
trial judge concludes that joint legal custody is
appropriate notwithstanding the absence of a “track
record” of willingness and ability on the part of the
parents to cooperate in making decisions dealing with
the child's welfare, the trial judge must articulate
fully the reasons that support that conclusion.
Willingness of Parents to Share Custody.
Generally, the parents should be willing to undertake
joint custody or it should not be ordered. We are asked
by Appellant, and by the Women's Legal Defense Fund as
amicus curiae, to hold that a trial judge may never
order joint legal custody over the objection of one
parent. They argue, with some force, that unwillingness
on the part of one parent to share custody inevitably
presages intransigence or inability to cooperate in
making decisions
affecting the welfare of the child. While we agree that
the absence of an express willingness on the part of the
parents to accept a joint custody arrangement is a
strong indicator that joint legal custody is
contraindicated, we are unwilling to fashion a hard and
fast rule that would have the effect of granting to
either parent veto power over the possibility of a joint
custody award. A caring parent, believing that sole
custody is in the best interest of the child, may
forcefully advance that position throughout the
litigation but be willing and able to fully participate
in a joint custody arrangement if that is the considered
decision of the court.
Fitness of Parents.
The psychological and physical capabilities of both
parents must be considered, although the determination
may vary depending upon whether a parent is being
evaluated for fitness for legal custody or for physical
custody. A parent may be fit for one type of custody but
not the other, or neither, or both.
Relationship
Established Between the Child and Each Parent.
When both parents are seen by the child as a source of
security and love, there is a favorable climate for
joint custody. On the other hand, joint custody may be
inappropriate when opposed by the child, or when there
are indications that the psychological or emotional
needs of the child would suffer under a joint custody
arrangement.
Preference of the Child. The reasonable
preference of a child of suitable age and discretion
should be considered. In addition to being sensitive to
the possible presence of the “lollipop” or “rescue”
syndromes, the trial judge must also recognize that
children often experience a strong desire to see
separated parents reunited, and this motivation may
produce an unrealistic preference for joint custody.
The so-called “lollipop syndrome” relates to the
situation where one parent in a custody battle may
shower the child with gifts and pleasant times, and
impose no discipline in order to win the child's
preference. The “rescue syndrome” relates to the
expression of preference by a child for the parent
perceived by the child to be the “weaker” of the two, in
the belief that the stronger parent will survive in any
event, but the weaker parent needs the child.
Potential Disruption of Child's Social and School Life.
Joint physical custody may seriously disrupt the social
and school life of a child when each parent has the
child for half the year, and the homes are not in close
proximity to one another. In such cases the amount of
time each parent has physical custody may be adjusted
without interfering with the concept of continued joint
custody.
Geographic Proximity of Parental Homes. Parental
homes within the same school district offer certain
advantages in a joint custody situation. The child may
enjoy joint physical custody without changing schools or
being required to constantly change a circle of friends,
and the parents may find proximity a benefit in
discussing the decisions to be made concerning the
child. However, distance is not a bar, and when the
distance between homes is great, a joint custody
arrangement may offer the only practical way to preserve
to the child a meaningful relationship with each parent.
Depending upon the age and emotional maturity of the
child, similarity of the respective home environments
may be desired, or exposure to dissimilar environments,
cultures and opportunities for learning may be
indicated.
Demands of Parental
Employment. In some situations, joint
physical custody will be appropriate only if the work
hours of the parents are different, or there is
flexibility in the demands of the employment of each.
Age and Number of Children. The factor of
age obviously interrelates with other factors already
discussed. The number of children involved may pose
practical difficulties to a joint custody arrangement,
but on the other hand may be helpful to both parents in
bringing about a sharing of the pressures of single
family parenting of a number of children. In rare cases,
split
custody may be preferred over sole or joint custody.
Sincerity of Parents'
Request. A number of interested observers
have opposed the concept of joint custody absent mutual
agreement on the ground that one spouse may interpose a
demand for joint custody solely to gain bargaining
leverage over the other in extracting favorable alimony,
child support or property concessions. Drawing upon the
reasoning of King Solomon writers have suggested that a
parent truly interested in the welfare of a child will
give up almost anything to protect the child, and thus
the threat of enforced joint custody can be used to
extract unwarranted concessions. While the remedy they
suggest-denial of joint custody in the absence of
parental agreement-is unnecessarily restrictive, we
acknowledge the legitimacy of these concerns and
highlight the necessity to carefully examine the motives
and sincerity of each parent.
Financial Status of the Parents.
Joint physical custody imposes financial burdens upon
the parents because of the necessity of maintaining two
homes for the child, with separate furnishings and often
separate toys, equipment, and clothing.
Impact on State or
Federal Assistance. Aid to families with
dependent children and eligibility for medical
assistance may be affected by the award of joint
custody. The necessary showing of “absence” of a parent
may be challenged when there is an award of joint
custody that includes shared physical custody.
Although the primary focus
is properly upon the best interest of the child, it is
also appropriate to consider the salutary effect that
joint custody may have on the parents, not only because
their feelings and interests are worthy of
consideration, but also because their improved
self-image as parents is likely to redound to the
ultimate benefit of the child.
Other
Factors. The enumeration of factors appropriate
for consideration in a joint custody case is not
intended to be all-inclusive, and a trial judge should
consider all other circumstances that reasonably relate
to the issue. The resolution of a custody dispute
continues to be one of the most difficult and demanding
tasks of a trial judge. It requires thorough
consideration of multiple and varied circumstances, full
knowledge of the available options, including the
positive and negative aspects of various custodial
arrangements, and a careful recitation of the facts and
conclusions that support the solution ultimately
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